BLOGS

Have A Question
Ask Kristen, please email AskKristen@KristenBomas.com with your questions.

2 Ways to Accept the Unexpected

April 21, 2015

How do I accept the unexpected?

 First, let’s define unexpected. We learn expectations. Expectations come from that which is external to the truth of who we are. We are taught to be, think, and believe as others, society, and religion expect us. We then learn to read and meet those expectations as we are growing up in this life. We do that in order to be accepted by those others. It is from that learning that we learn to set expectations of others, life, and sequences of events. People learn to feel “in control” by the predictability of expectations. So when all of a sudden things are unexpected (not happening in a predictable, anticipated way) we can find ourselves at a loss.
 

All the learned expectations are the foundation of a lot of our challenges in this life. Expectations are not who we are! Consequently, as we begin to unravel the challenges in our life we begin to move beyond expectations.

 

So here are the things YOU can do !

 

The simple answer to the original question is “You accept the unexpected by embracing the challenges in life and learning to live in the present.” Let me explain, everyone has challenges in this life. Those challenges are what allow you to feel any of the fear-based emotions. Conversely, anytime someone feels a fear-based emotion they are experiencing a challenge in some way. As you begin to embrace the challenges, understand those challenges, and heal those challenges, you become free of them. In life, you can get to a place where you are excited about the presentation of another challenge because you know that with its healing comes greater freedom, love and acceptance in this life!

 

So if you learn to embrace the challenges in this life, you will also learn to move beyond your fear of death and/or aggression. As you begin to move beyond that fear, you become more of an observer in this life. As an observer, you are more in the present. The more present you are in this life, the less expectations and anticipations will play a part. When in the present, there is no past and there is no future, there is only now and in the now you have no expectations. Therefore, there cannot be the unexpected.

 

It is at this point that you are accepting everything as the unexpected. You learn to read the unexpected as life speaking to you. You embrace the unexpected as those opportunities to grow and to see where you are limiting yourself. You allow the unexpected to be the gifts that are constantly taking you into greater freedom. Simply, you have grown into a space of accepting and embracing the unexpected because the unexpected is your way of life.

 

You cannot learn to accept the unexpected by doing. It is the outpouring of being present.
I hope each of you enjoys the uncertainty and constant change that life had to offer you. The gifts are endless for each of you and they are found in the unexpected!

 

No Comments »

No comments yet.

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URL

Leave a comment

Kristen Bomas, PA
398 Camino Gardens Blvd., Suite 104
Boca Raton, Fl 33432

561.212.7575
KB@KristenBomas.com

Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube LinkedIn